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Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “
The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice.
Today’s topic: Drugs, infidelity and disrespect Hey Steve and the Morning Crew, I am both saddened and humbled to be writing this letter. Well, moving on to the real issue at hand — I am a 24-year-old mother of two wonderful boys ages three and eight months. I am a Christian woman and I have been married for a little over two years. My husband and I did not date long before we got married and about two weeks after the vows, I learned that he has a problem with powdered cocaine. His battle with drugs, as you may suspect, has caused a rift in our marriage. It comes with selfishness, a lack of respect, lack of trust and everything else you can imagine. He is 35 years old and it’s hard to change an old dog’s ways, especially when he isn’t trying. I don’t trust him to provide for my kids. nor do i trust him to be my
man if the need should arise. After about a year of him stealing money, not coming home, quitting and losing jobs, I have lost feelings of intimacy and love. I have been driven to the act of infidelity one time too many, which is now another issue on the table. Now we have drugs, selfishness, distrust and a marriage in shambles. I am terribly affraid of divorce! what is means for my children, for him, for me, for my walk with Christ. However, I know that this type of relationship is unhealthy. The drug problem is getting worse and my feelings for independence and youth is increasing, causing me to make bad decisions. Simply put, I feel trapped and youth-less! What should I do? should I stay for my babies? Should I leave for my babies? Should I separate for a while? Should we divorce and allow time for him to work out his demons and for me to be 24? Please help, my heart is in a blender and it is hard to separate fact from emotion. Signed, Just want to do whats best
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