Steve Harvey Morning Show's Daily Strawberry Letter

Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: Dazed and confused Dear Morning Show, I have a serious issue with my marriage and maybe even with myself. I’ve been married for 18 years to man that I fell in love with in the third grade. We have three beautiful children, ages 16,11 and 6. My husband has a problem with watching porn videos. He trades them with his friends and watches them on the computer. I blamed myself for years, saying that it was my fault and that maybe I wasn’t satisfying him. After many arguments about it, I found myself wondering what it was like to watch it. I tried it and it was very much a turn off for me. I began talking with a male friend of mine that tried to explain the reasons men watch porn and it led to us becoming much closer than friends. We’ve known each other since college and things have been great between us. I want to take things to the next level, but I still love my husband. Is a porn addiction enough to destroy a marriage, or is it worth fighting for? My friend says he will give me the space and time to decide what’s best for me and my children and that he’s going to be my friend no matter what I decide. I’ve fallen in love with him over the last three and a half years but it hasn’t changed the love that I have for my husband. Please help me, I don’t want to destroy my family but can it be fixed? Extremely confused! To submit your own letter to Strawberry Letter, click here. For more information on Steve Harvey Comedy tour dates, click here. For more Strawberry Letters at ESSENCE.com, click here.