Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: I’m down because he can’t get up!!!! Dear Steve and Shirley, I was married for 16 years, separated for 6, and now divorced for 4 years. For 3 years, I had been celibate until my first love contacted me to tell me that he still loved me and was always thinking about me. We had known each other for 20 years and the feelings were mutual. Because it had been a minute since someone had made my “bed rock” I was naturally expecting my first few encounters with him to be awesome… THEY WERE NOT!!!! I really cared a lot about this man and so I decided to do something to spice up our sex life. Because your show is PG, I will leave out the XXX version. I will say that it did the trick. OMG! After one episode I almost thought I was going to be cross-eyed. Needless to say, we are enjoying exploring. One of the “remedies” I used to increase our passion was talking about and then acting out fantasies. That drove him crazy. Now all he ever wants me to do is talk out these fantasies to help him get aroused. These fantasies are not even about me and him together, they are about me with other men, lots of men. He whispers in my ear that he needs these stories to get the party started. Why, is my question. I’m asking that because I look damn good. I’m 5’4″, cute face, small waist (38-26-36), and while this next line has little to do with this situation, my two best friends are porn stars, are at the top of their game, and oh yes they have given me on-set tips and tricks to perform solo or in a group. I don’t quite know how to approach this problem that I have with him.Will he begin to think that these stories are true? Can we continue to have amazing sex without them? Will I still have the energy to detail every aspect of my “escapades” and still get pleasure from him? Or could it be his age? He is 50 years old. If I don’t whisper these tales in his ear, he does not perform well at all. Steve, do you have an answer for me? To submit your own letter to Strawberry Letter, click here. For more information on Steve Harvey Comedy tour dates, click here. For more Strawberry Letters at ESSENCE.com, click here.