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Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “
The Steve Harvey Morning Show” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice.
Today’s topic: Married But Not In Love Good morning Steve, Shirley, Carla and Tommy, I want to remain anonymous because I do not want to hurt anyone’s feelings as my husband and his family may be listeners of the show. My husband of 5 years, who I used to love very much, continues to give excuse after excuse of why he can not satisfy me in the bedroom due to health reasons. We have gone to doctors and there were remedies given, but he is the lazy one who will not follow the guidelines needed to live a more healthier life. We have many other issues in our marriage that I was willing to work out and could deal with but this one I am losing my patience with. I have moved myself out of the bedroom and have not slept with him in 3 years. Every time we discuss the issues I get the same excuse and frankly I am so tired of hearing the same excuses that I have lost all respect for him as a man. We have two beautiful children we both love, but I am not willing to stay in an unhealthy relationship with a man just for the sake of the kids. I have needs and wants as well. I just turned 40 this year and desire to be loved to the 10th power by my man. He says he wants me to teach him how to love me; but I believe that is just another excuse for me to stay and continue living like this. He does not eat right, exercise or anything that the doctors have prescribed for him to live a healthier life. I wanted to work things out at one time, I would have loved to stay and be this wonderful family he wants to portray us as to others, but I just cannot stay living under these conditions. I do not want to be one of those women who stay in the marriage and continuously commit adultry. I want to live my life under God’s laws and principles but if I stay I will continue to hurt myself moreso by committing adultry and that is not the answer. Am I selfish for thinking this way? I know and understand no marriage is perfect and we all are a work in progress, but in the bedroom, Steve and Shirley, come on! I could forgive everything he has done if I could just be able to release some frustration but I am not even granted that. What should I do? My heart is telling me to LEAVE…….
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