Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: Get a Black man to thearpy Dear Steve, Shirley, and (OMG) Tommy,  I really need your help. My marriage can not continue like this. I am a God-fearing woman who loves and respects her husband. But we have a serious problem with connecting sexually. Guest what? It is not me. My husband has a hard time following through. We may make love probably six times a year and I really have to fuss to get it. Please do not laugh, but I gave my husband the finger test while he was sleeping and he is not gay. That is what I thought at first. I am an open person and I brought the subject to his attention and he recognized that it is a problem as well. This has been going on for at least five years. We been together for 11 years and married for seven years. We have three beautiful children. Steve he is an ex-professional football player, he is educated and the brother takes care of home. We do not fight and I know without a doubt that my husband is not cheating and he loves his family. He was abused physically and mentally as a child by his father. And his sisters were abused physically, mentally and sexually. Steve, I know my husband needs thearpy. I have offered to go with him. If I demand it or threaten him, he will do it. Anything I ask him to do, he will. How do you get a six-figure black man into thearpy. I miss connecting with my husband. P.S. Tommy, I ain’t fat and I am not bringing other people into my bedroom. When it do happens, it is great for me. God made us sexual beings and we veiw sex as sacard. He needs professional help to deal with his abuse.
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