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Today’s topic: Married and Not Interested

Hi Morning Show

Here is my issue — I’ve been married for 10 years and my sexual relationship with my husband has a tendency to be very boring. We might connect once or twice a month. I mean he just doesn’t take me there so I make myself unavailable for him and available for myself. I do have a low sex drive, but I think it’s because of my disintrest with him. The other issue I have is his uncleanliness. He’s a very hard working man — a truck driver, working long hard hours. Often when he comes home he will plop down on the coach, watch the game, eat and fall asleep. Then he’ll wake the next morning for work and pretty much walk out the door for another day’s work yeah in the same clothes. Now this is such a huge turn off for me especially sexually, Now when I’m out and I see a handsome man smelling (OMG) great am I wronge to allow my mind to wonder? Mind you, he’s in his late 40s and I’m in my late 30s. There is a ten year difference … Help!

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