Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: Lonely and confused Hello Shirley and Steve, I desperately need your help. I was in a relationship for 15 years. We were married for 12 of the 15 years until my husband told me cheated on me and he wasn’t interested in fixing our marriage. Now that we are separated (not divorced, since he won’t sign the papers) I have had the worst time trying to find love. I met someone who seemed OK until he became abusive so I moved on from that loser. The next guy said he was separated from his wife. I found that out a few months later that he and his wife closed on a house together (His meaning of separation was that she lived in another state until they closed on their home.). Then the perfect guy came along. He is nice looking, has a good job, drives a nice car and has a home. After a year of dating he got arrested for issues in his past and lost everything. Why am I attracting either married men or losers? My loneliness and confusion is about to drive me back to a marriage that I drowned in and allowed myself to be consumed by. Since my separation I feel free but why is this loneliness and state of confusion hunting me? Can I really love again? Please Help, L.C. (Lonely & Confused)
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