Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: Should I be concerned? Dear Steve, I am a 42-year old-man and have been married to my wife “Lisa” for 15 years. Lisa is 43 and we have four children. Lisa is a good wife and I believe I am a loving husband. Here is my problem: Lisa has occasional telephone conversations with an ex-lover and it bothers me. Before we were married, Lisa told me that she and “Larry” were friends from college and the three of us even met for lunch once. When I asked her if Larry was an old boyfriend she said no. About a year later, she admitted to me that before she and I met, she had a sexual relationship with Larry. I asked her why she lied and told me that Larry wasn’t an old boyfriend. She said that she didn’t lie because she never “dated” Larry; they were just friends with benefits. Now she says she and Larry are just friends (without benefits) and that she would never cheat on me. But since she slept with him before when they weren’t dating, I don’t like her talking to him now. Steve, am I being unreasonable? Signed, Feeling Jealous
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