Steve Harvey Morning Show's Daily Strawberry Letter

Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: Married to Shaku Zulu Dear Steve and Shirley, I need your help! I will try to give you as much information about my issue, because I really need some good , firm feedback. I met this guy in 2001, He could barely speak English.(French is his first language} I didn’t mind that part because our attraction was instant! During the first two years,I taught him how to speak English, brought him good quality clothing, and showed him around our city. I took him to the finest restaurants and spoiled this man. Two years later we were married and I was pregnant, I also have a son from a previous relationship and he treats him just as his own. My problem is, I was in Dept. store and I saw him with another woman. That was not the first time that I caught him. My sister and I followed him one day to a house. A lady came out and got into his car. We ended up in a a high speed chase, that could have ended badly. I finally put him out, but for the last two years he will not leave us alone. He pays the rent, he shells out money like its water. I cant say no because I recently lost my job. Now that I’m at his beck and call, he is suggesting that I help him obtain his citizenship to stay in the country, if I do, then he will come home and we can be a family again. That does not sit well in my soul. I am now wondering did he marry me for his papers all along?? My husband use to be the naive bush man from Africa! Did I make him the man he is and should I help him with his citizenship?

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