Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice.

Today’s topic: Too Fat to Complain 

Dear Steve & Shirley,

 My husband & I have been together for 21 years, married 11. We have five children and I do believe in my heart that this is the man God meant for me. I have always been plus size but now we have reached unhealthy, ridiculous size, 360+ lbs. My husband cheated on me as a result of all the extra weight & fathered a son. He says it is no longer an issue but I believe he is cheating again. I have tried to lose the weight but it is hard raising 5 children. I want to confront him about the cheating but I haven’t fixed the problem with myself and I don’t want a divorce. My husband also is NOT a bad man; he takes care of home, works 2 jobs, GREAT Dad & lover. He is AWESOME except he is cheating. My question is because it is not affecting me negatively should I care, should I say something? I just don’t like the fact that he thinks he’s getting away with something and I don’t want it to get out of hand, I can NOT deal with any other EXTRA children. And I think if it was turned into a competition between me & the other woman I would lose because I’m soooooooo large. Is this one of those times like Steve says, “Keep my damn mouth closed!”

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