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Today’s topic: What’s Worse — the Cheating or the Sneaking?

Dear Steve and Shirley,

My boyfriend, 41, and I, 39, have been dating for about 15 months and we live in different states. I recently found out — as a result of listening to his voice mail — that he has been seeing another female. I confronted him about it and he completely came clean stating that he was with another woman several months ago, but is not still seeing her. For several months now he has been telling me that I don’t dress sexy enough for him and that a man wants his woman to be eye candy for him. Therefore, he admitted to sleeping with another woman because other women are turning him on. He tells me that he loves me and that I am the woman he wants to build a future with by getting married and having a family. This past Thanksgiving he took me to meet his entire family out of state. And this past Christmas he went home with me and met my entire family as well. He tells me that the only thing missing is my transformation from “PJs” to “true sexy,” and he has discussed this with me numerous times. Now I know that he was wrong for stepping out of the relationship and sleeping with another woman — who he claimed meant absolutely nothing to him —  just sex — but to what degree am I wrong for sneaking into his voice mail? And also for getting too comfortable and stepping down my game in the sexy department?

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