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Today’s topic: My Marriage Sucks

Hi Steve,

I have been married for 10 years and together for 17. I have a 15 year old daughter. For the past 2 years my marriage has been hell. I have found out so much that my husband has been doing behind my back. Internet sex, hooking up with local girls etc. The big thing I found was a phone he had on the side that had text messages from my best friend which we haven’t spoke in a year because I always accused them of things… it was messages about them getting a room but of course they denied it all. Since I found out this he still has secret phones behind my back but begs me to stay and that he is not cheating. He has been violent with me also when I find these phones and all the bad things he has been doing behind my back. I can’t take this anymore and he will not leave the house. He stays out back in an apartment we have and never spends time with our daughter. Please help and I know that I have been a fool.

Thanks, Ginger


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