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Today’s topic: For Better or For Worse

Hi Steve,

What do you do when you’re already married and the relationship isn’t going anywhere? We’ve been together for 12 years and married for 3 — the first yr we separated, got back together, and broke up! Now we’re trying to work at it again and he’s cheated! His defense is he pays the cost to be the boss, and that he can do whatever he wants to do. So I started a relationship with the Lord and he had a fit — said that I was a Jesus freak, a Jesus fanatic and now has started drinking, clubbing , everything. I had a place in the church and it felt so good… I was dancing , singing, assisting my pastor and everything. I am a very devoted wife and I believe that being a good wife is a honorable calling. Even when we where separated I kept to myself for two yrs. Now am not doing anything, nothing (not even attending church but now I feel lost don’t know which way to go because I know for a fact that if I get back in church there goes my marriage. I am so unhappy, confused on which way to go!!!! Steve is this marriage worth it? Help!


For Better or For Worse


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