Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: My Big Mess Good Morning,  Everyone. Really hope I can get some help on this. Foolishly, I started a relationship three and half years ago without any boundaries. A situation I should not have been in because I really was dating someone else. I stopped seeing the guy on the side for awhile at which point he found out the reason I did was because I had someone. Here is were the problem starts. After no contact we decide one last time well that turns into a beautiful baby. After almost two years and a parternity test – You are the Father. We decide to try again with all cards on the table or so I thought because a few weeks later He discloses that he has another child only a few months older than my baby and one a year older. I have zero problem with kids but what happened to all cards out. Even worse he has not told any of his family including his mother (we have known for a year and his family knows about everybody but my baby). He claims he loves us and is financially supportive. He puts in time, name has been changed and our baby knows he is Daddy. My questions are I am fooling myself to think this could every BE RIGHT when we started so wrong? Is he making a difference by not telling his family? Should I give him a choice to let it out or leave our baby s life? I am afraid she will grow up feeling inadequate. (Yes, I have met some of his family but before baby.) I know how horrible this is but do not want it to be anymore damning to our baby than it already has. Please Help
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