Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: Is he over his ex? Dear Morning Crew, My husband and I got married earlier this year, and I am pregnant with our first child. He has a nine-year-old daughter from a previous relationship. His daughter lives in another state and his ex does not let him visit his daughter when he wants. When he calls to speak to his daughter, his ex will sometimes answer, if she misses the call she will call back, but she rarely puts the daughter on the phone. Or, she will say that the daughter is busy with homework. Anyway, I know this really hurts my husband. The ex will not give an address, yet she asked him for ours. Once we drove to visit the daughter and when we got into town the ex told my husband that the daughter was too busy to meet with him. I’m beginning to think that my husband is obsessing over this woman and the situation. We were watching a movie once and he said that one of the characters looked liked his ex. And in the grocery store he saw a woman he said reminded him of his ex. Even worst, we were listening to an R&B album, and he told me that his daughter was conceived to the music! And just a few days ago when I was fussing at him he called me by the ex’s name! He told me that they haven’t been together since the daughter was a year old. I don’t know why he would make a slip of the tongue like that and it has been so many years. He and I have only been together for a little over a year. He has dated other women since the ex. What sent me over the edge was that I found a naked picture of the ex that he had been keeping in one of our storage rooms, along with her hospital band and old pregnancy test. Which is just disgusting! I immediately tore up the picture and threw it away. But now I feel a bit insecure and disrespected, since he told me about their lovemaking to a certain album. When I brought it up again after he called me the ex’s name, he told me that I need to learn how to let things go. He apologized for calling me her name, but he never apologized about telling me intimate details. I can’t listen to the album anymore, because I will think of him making love to his ex. Am I tripping, and obsessing? Or is he still not over his ex?
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