Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice.

Today’s topic: I Want to Have Sex with My Girlfriend But Can’t 

Hello Steve and Shirley,

To everyone on the show! The problem I am having is that me and my girlfriend/lady friend went on this mini getaway for the weekend. Everything was great expect when it came to me performing in bed, but the funny thing is when she kisses me,talks,touches,or even breath to hard around me I get excited,erect,wood or as my Caucasian brothers would say a woodie. The thing I would like to know is how often does this happen to guys and what is the age range that this happens in if any and what is the best way to solve my problem. And I would like to add I’m 40yrs old it’s really embarrassing that I can’t perform with the woman I love, I would like to add I’ve been dating for quite some time now and this was going to be our first time doing it. I know it may sound funny but I’m a little old school I got to get to know the person I’m going out with and guys and lady or ladies I really want to marry this one it like you would say Steve she’s a keeper.


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