Momlogic blogger Kimberly Seals Allers tackles the thorny issue of spanking; her White neighbors response to her spanking her teenage daughter, and how culture plays a role when it comes to disciplining. “Apparently, I had broke the ‘how to spank your kids around White people rules’ and didn’t even know it. Why didn’t I get the memo?” she jokes.

“It was discipline with love, not child abuse. A few years ago when Jamie Foxx, while accepting a groundbreaking Oscar, thanked his grandmother for beating him and keeping him straight, White folks went crazy. But Black people completely understood. We know how our mamas, grandmamas, and aunties beat us with love–and then sent us outside to walk it off!”

Read more of Allers’ humorous take on the subject matter at Momlogic