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9 Rules To Live By When Dating With Children

Top 9 Rules to Live By for Dating With KidsThe Golden Rules for Dating With KidsLast week, tell-it-like-it-is relationships editor Steven James Dixon gave us his take on how women should introduce their children to their new men. He's followed it up with a list of rules to live by when dating with kids.9. The Sleepover Rule9. Your guy can not come in the house until the kids are asleep for a solid hour. If he Can't wait for an hour or until you say it's safe to come in, you and yours is not worth waiting for. You do know what I mean by yours right?8. The Morning After RuleHe has got to be out of the house a solid hour before the kids wake up. Your kids are not going to believe that this dude came over early this morning. Every other morning, your kid is waking you up--that is why this doesn't work.7. The Dirty Laundy RuleIf something gets spilled on him, he goes home! Don't wash his clothes. He can't wear Daddy's old shirt. Are you trying to make your kids go crazy?6. The Kitchen RuleGet that man out of the kitchen! What are you doing? You're setting your man up for, "You are not my daddy!"5. The Discipline RuleIf your kids are bad in front of all of your other friends, but now, all of a sudden, they have to be good for this joker, that ain't gonna fly! They'll resent him from day one!4. The Cleanup RuleIf your house stays filthy, nasty or dirty, but when he comes by, the kids have to clean up. You're setting your guy up for, What did you do to my momma?"3. The Lead By Example RuleYour dude comes by to pick up you and your son. Ya'll get in the car and he is bumping that new Lil Weezie. Just yesterday, you crushed your son's Lil Weezie CD and made him eat the wrapping paper. What, you are going to try that "Don't do what I do" mess?2. The Dinner Table RuleYou can't eat off of each other's plates at dinner. Are you crazy??!! With knives on the table!1. The Stop Lying RuleStop introducing men that you are dating as "Uncle Dude." That is so played out! You can't kiss your uncle. The kids have seen the family pictures, they know all of the uncles and cousins.Steven James DixonSteven James Dixon is the author of the sure fire conversation starter "Men Don't Heal, We Ho," a book about the emotional instability in men. Read More: Commentary: How to Date When You Have Kids Commentary: When Family Planning Gets Tricky Commentary: 10 Skills For a Successful Marriage
By Steven James Dixon · Updated October 29, 2020

Top 9 Rules to Live By for Dating With Kids

The Golden Rules for Dating With Kids

Last week, tell-it-like-it-is relationships editor Steven James Dixon gave us his take on how women should introduce their children to their new men.

He’s followed it up with a list of rules to live by when dating with kids.

9. The Sleepover Rule

9. Your guy can not come in the house until the kids are asleep for a solid hour. If he Can’t wait for an hour or until you say it’s safe to come in, you and yours is not worth waiting for. You do know what I mean by yours right?

8. The Morning After Rule

He has got to be out of the house a solid hour before the kids wake up. Your kids are not going to believe that this dude came over early this morning. Every other morning, your kid is waking you up–that is why this doesn’t work.

7. The Dirty Laundy Rule

If something gets spilled on him, he goes home! Don’t wash his clothes. He can’t wear Daddy’s old shirt. Are you trying to make your kids go crazy?

6. The Kitchen Rule

Get that man out of the kitchen! What are you doing? You’re setting your man up for, “You are not my daddy!”

5. The Discipline Rule

If your kids are bad in front of all of your other friends, but now, all of a sudden, they have to be good for this joker, that ain’t gonna fly! They’ll resent him from day one!

4. The Cleanup Rule

If your house stays filthy, nasty or dirty, but when he comes by, the kids have to clean up. You’re setting your guy up for, What did you do to my momma?”

3. The Lead By Example Rule

Your dude comes by to pick up you and your son. Ya’ll get in the car and he is bumping that new Lil Weezie. Just yesterday, you crushed your son’s Lil Weezie CD and made him eat the wrapping paper. What, you are going to try that “Don’t do what I do” mess?

2. The Dinner Table Rule

You can’t eat off of each other’s plates at dinner. Are you crazy??!! With knives on the table!

1. The Stop Lying Rule

Stop introducing men that you are dating as “Uncle Dude.” That is so played out! You can’t kiss your uncle. The kids have seen the family pictures, they know all of the uncles and cousins.

Steven James Dixon

Steven James Dixon is the author of the sure fire conversation starter “Men Don’t Heal, We Ho,” a book about the emotional instability in men.

Read More:
  • Commentary: How to Date When You Have Kids
  • Commentary: When Family Planning Gets Tricky
  • Commentary: 10 Skills For a Successful Marriage
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