Thank goodness my man and I are communicative people who do not give up on being understood or understanding. I asserted myself, and despite all of the misfortune he was experiencing, I decided I was a priority too. It was important for me to tell him how deeply affected I was by his absence. I wanted to express myself, but I didn’t want to appear insensitive or selfish. When we started the conversation, I was nervous. I didn’t know where it would end. It didn’t for days. PAUSE ~ He told me I was the most difficult woman he ever experienced. I am. He told me I was opinionated. I am. He told me that no woman has ever believed in him as much as me. I do. He told me that he doesn’t want to lose me. He won’t. He asked that we always keep the lines of communication open. We will. PLAY ~
The conversations never stop. And I am so happy they don’t. He, like me, is not a quitter. He speaks of his father’s favorite quote (one that I will paraphrase), “It’s easy to be with someone when times are good. It’s who they are when things are not so good that matters most.” Let’s be honest, we are at an early stage in our relationship. It hasn’t been years and years. Either one of us could have walked away during this past time of challenges. He could have walked… because the responsibility of a mate is a lot to bear when your world seems to be spinning out of control. Or I could have walked away because extended periods of neglect are painful (regardless of the reasoning), and it is not easy being in a relationship when your mate is physically and mentally someplace else. So why did we stay? We are committed; to each other, to us, to the love that is growing and foundation that is being built.
Communication… can’t live, can’t love, can’t be without it.
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