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Modern Day Matchmaker: What Not to Get Him for Valentine’s Day

After helping with one of the largest Valentine’s Day gift surveys ever conducted, Paul Carrick Brunson reveals what men absolutely do not want from you this Valentine’s Day. Ladies, take notes.
By Paul Carrick Brunson · Updated October 28, 2020
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Valentine’s Day Gift Giving Dos and Don’ts

Ladies, I had the privilege of partnering with Tagged.com to conduct one of the largest surveys ever conducted about Valentine’s Day gift ideas. It was a truly enlightening experience. Through it, we learned what men truly feel are the best (and worst!) gifts to receive on Valentine’s Day. Want to have his heart in your hand after he opens his gift? Start by not getting him one of these top eight least favorite Valentine’s Day gifts among men. Plus, at the end of the gallery, be sure to check out my video on the best gifts to give.

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Flowers and Chocolates

Sure, there are several men who are actual romantics, but this is hands down, the worst gift. You’re better off giving him the Celine Dion greatest hits album.

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Money

Giving cash in a relationship may sound efficient but it shows a complete lack of imagination. Even though it sounds tempting, don’t do it. Spend the money on something he will like or move on to a more creative idea.

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Homemade Coupon Booklet

You’re thinking: Aww, how sweet? He’s thinking: She has no idea what I want and didn’t even want to take a guess.” Not a good look.

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Cologne

This is a hit or miss gift with chances being that it will be a miss. Most of my boys have a few bottles in their cabinets collecting dust. Let him pick his signature fragrances out on his own. 

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Pajamas

According to most surveys, less than 15 percent of men wear pajamas to bed, and virtually all of them are baby boomers. So, if he’s under the age of 50, pass on PJs.

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Tie

This is the most popular gift from women to men, yet also one of the most dreaded. (Seriously!) Only proceed with buying a tie if he believes you have impeccable taste.

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Household Items

As crazy as it sounds, vacuums, brooms, and mops have all been given as gifts to men before, and they are usually immediately followed by break ups. Proceed with extreme caution before you go here.

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Underwear and Socks

This is a cop-out gift! Your man will likely commit real time and money to ensure your Valentine’s Day gift is well received. Please repay the favor by putting thought into your gift for him. For more tips on how to give the best gift possible, watch my gift guide video now.

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Talk to Paul

Comments, concerns or questions about my advice? Tell me about it below! Paul Carrick Brunson is a 2012 NAACP Image Award nominee and a 2012 iDate Matchmaker & Relationship Coach Of The Year nominee. His bestselling book It’s Complicated (But It Doesn’t Have to Be) is in stores now. Contact him directly on Facebook or Twitter anytime or visit his website.

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