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Sometimes It May Be Best To Say 'I Don't Care'

Relationships are amazing parts of our lives, but they are not always easy. They become even harder when we allow others to interfere in them with their questions and opinions. Being in the public eye, I struggle to create and maintain romantic relationships. I am constantly faced with assumptions about who my significant other is and it seems that there is always some speculation about my relationship status. While I may not agree with it, I understand that being in the public eye warrants it and it is my job to manage it... For More of The Love & War Chronicles, click here. Read More: Commentary: Why Are You 'Entitled' To In Love?Are Those Extra Pounds Hurting Your Dating Life?
By Raheem Devaughn · Updated October 29, 2020
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Relationships are amazing parts of our lives, but they are not always easy. They become even harder when we allow others to interfere in them with their questions and opinions. Being in the public eye, I struggle to create and maintain romantic relationships. I am constantly faced with assumptions about who my significant other is and it seems that there is always some speculation about my relationship status. While I may not agree with it, I understand that being in the public eye warrants it and it is my job to manage it. But there are times when the interference in our relationship is more personal. We all have friends that we confide in and talk to about our relationships. At times we do not recognize the effect that this has on our relationship. We take a lot of what other people have to say to heart and rightly or wrongly it makes our way into or relationships. As a result we create unnecessary problems or aggravate issues that we are going through because of the people that we have in our ears. I think that there are three criteria for having a satisfying relationship. First, make sure that you are happy. Your happiness is the key to making your relationship work. Second, understand that while you should not completely settle, there are times when you will have to modify your standards at some point. Third, learn to keep personal things personal. Everyone does not have to know everything about your relationship, and they shouldn’t. Whenever I am faced with someone spreading negativity in my relationship, I remember the old saying, “misery loves company.” I am also reminded to be mindful of the company you keep. Sometimes you cannot see a hater until you are happy. It is then that they demonstrate their negativity. It’s up to you to control the affect that their negativity has on your relationship. When confiding in others about your relationship I would like you to remember this, no matter how many disclaimers you give before you tell someone something, they can and may still tell someone else. You are the gatekeeper to your happiness. Your relationship will be happier and healthier if you keep outsiders on the outside. Sometimes it may be best to simply say “I Don’t Care.” “I Dont Care” Chorus They can hate if they wanna I dont care Let them hate if they wanna Goin nowhere They can hate if they wanna Let them hate if they wanna Goin nowhere Verse 1 (Umm Hmm) All your friends keep saying you can do better With somebody else Saying Im dangerous and that you can do bad All by yourself (Everybody got something to say) You don’t even wanna see why they talk so badly I actually make you happy (All that matters is us anyway) I don’t even give a damn For you Im a better man So tell em if they wanna hate they can Chorus Let em talk about us (They can hate if they wanna I dont care) I dont care (No mater what they say about us) Let them hate if they wanna (We aint going no where) Goin nowhere Verse 2 (Umm) Everybody says your too slow for me and the life I live You aint out in the club all night You wanna be the quiet part of my life They dont understand how beautiful that is (ayy hey) (Everybody got something to say) You don’t even wanna see why they talk so badly I actually make you happy (All that matters is us anyway) and I don’t even give a damn (Noooo) For you Im a better man So tell em if they wanna hate they can… For More of The Love & War Chronicles, click here. Read More:
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  • Are Those Extra Pounds Hurting Your Dating Life?
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