Karrine Steffans is the latest public figure to share her thoughts on Beyonce’s Lemonade and the idea of matrimony.
But unlike other think pieces, the former video vixen takes a different stance: she’s a self-identified “Becky with the good hair,” a phrase that has become synonymous with “the other woman” ever since Beyoncé’s song, “Sorry,” dropped on Saturday.
In the piece posted to xoJane, the author Steffans writes,
“A woman is all things. She is your Becky. She is your Beyoncé. She is the embodiment of all that is light, all that is dark, all that is all. She is your wife. She is your whore. She is your priestess and your infidel. A woman is your lover, your hater, your everything and she is nothing to you at all. She cries for you. She laughs at you. She is your forgiveness. She is your vengeance and your concession, your cover, your nakedness. A woman is all things.”
This is followed by talk of a pre-Beyoncé hook-up with Jay Z—Steffans has written about her experience with the rapper before—before touching on marriage, specifically, her marriage to Columbus Short. “The alcohol, the cocaine, the other women, it all became too much and I raged. I cried,” she writes. “I mourned and still mourn the loss of my husband, my friend, my confidant. And to be honest, I always wonder if I should have just kept taking the pain. I still wonder if I should have saved my marriage at any cost, no matter how much it hurt me.”
Steffens also talks about her past relationship with Method Man, which lasted seven years, although the rapper was married.
“I loved him, as a person, as a friend, as my lover, and with that love,” she says, “I warmed his cold feet over the phone and soothed his doubts and fears about marriage. After all their years together, after giving him children, she deserved to be his wife. And for the next six years … I would be his Becky.”
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