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ESSENCE Poll: Is 3.5 Dates Too Soon to Sleep With Someone?

The average dater says no. Is it too soon for you?
Is 3.5 Dates Too Soon to Sleep With Someone?
Get yours in bed–freely and frequently
By Taylor Lewis · Updated October 27, 2020
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Let’s talk about sex, ladies. 

Thanks to new survey results released by the popular travel website Time Out, we now have answers to our most pressing dating questions: Who do daters think have the sexiest accent? Brits. How many people have dated their boss? 10 percent. How long should people wait before having sex? 3.5 dates.

Wait… what? 

Yes, that’s right. We are now living in an age of social media, smartphones and singles who are eager to jump between the sheets. Though only one in 10 surveyed think that it’s acceptable to proposition a sleepover on the first date, the majority of responders agreed that 3.53 dates is the perfect length of time to wait before dancing the horizontal tango.

Do you think 3.5 dates is too quick for a quickie? Take our poll and leave us a comment telling us how long you wait before sleeping with your boo.

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