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6 Ways to Put Yourself First

We spend so much energy doing for everyone else. Make sure your to-do list includes YOU! Here are a few suggestions from the July issue of ESSENCE to get you started. 
By Sharon Boone · Updated October 27, 2020
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You First!

This Fourth of July, declare your independence from other people’s holiday plans. Head to the beach, picnic in the park or spend some alone time in your own backyard (with a cocktail).

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You First!

Don’t let the usual questions (When are you getting married? When are you going to have a baby?) ruin your family reunion fun. Let well-meaning but nosy family members know you love the life you’re living.

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You First!

Switch up the lunch-at-your-desk routine and enjoy your meal alfresco. Recharge in the sun so you can beat the afternoon slump.

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You First!

When your man tries to commander the barbeque, let him know you love the grill as much as he does by whipping up your signature ribs. He can handle clean up. 

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You First!
Break up the workday to regain a sense of calm with getsomeheadspace.com, a Web site that offers free ten-minute meditation exercises. Download the app onto your phone so you can achieve a measure of peace on the go.
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From You

“Once a week I take myself to dinner, unplug from social media, turn of the phone and put on some smooth jazz.” —@iamWendyNicole, via Twitter

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