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6 Ways to Put Yourself First

We spend so much energy doing for everyone else. Make sure your to-do list includes YOU! Here are a few suggestions to get you started. All are the least you deserve.
By Sharon Boone · Updated October 27, 2020
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Do a lingerie purge: get rid of all your stretched-out, faded everyday undergarments and replace them with silky, colorful pieces.

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Make sure that new dress you buy doesn’t require Spanx for you to look fly. It is possible to be both cute and comfortable this season.

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Step 3

Let love rule and step away from the negative comments on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter.

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Buy a fragrant shower gel with a delicious scent that transforms your bathroom into a spa. Let it be known to all in your house that this is just for you. Find this particular set for $16-$40, available at Crabtree & Evelyn.

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Step 5

Eat dinner off the good dishes, at the dining table that’s always set but never used. Why save your sparkle when you can shine anytime?

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Step 6

Reader’s Choice: “I turn off my phone, get a glass of red wine, jump into the Jacuzzi and relax for hours. Then I get into bed and read my Bible until I fall asleep. It’s the best!” — Ericka Chancellor, via Facebook. 

6 Ways to Put Yourself First