“I didn’t mean to tell her what you told me, but I had to because…[Fill in the blank].” Sound all too familiar? This usually precedes an excuse your girlfriend has for telling your secrets to her close friend, who’s no friend of yours. Your business should be safe with her, no matter what. If your private life frequently becomes hot gossip between her and others, she’s failing you.
If you let her tell it, your way is never the way to do anything. Trust, if she has zero filter when it comes to criticizing you face-to-face, she’s probably saying it behind your back too. Support and friendship go hand in hand. Don’t let her off easy on her end of the bargain.
Let’s get one thing straight, right now. No real friend of yours should ever be flirting or toying with your man. Even if she passes it off as a joke, the discomfort you feel is real, and 100-percent justified. Your man is off limits, and if you’re starting to feel that she and he are too close, they are, and there’s no better time than now to put a stop to it.
True friends find happiness in seeing each other thrive and succeed — and enjoy life too. If whenever you’re enjoying a high moment she seems to be feeling rather low, there’s some underlying jealous present in the friendship that must be addressed.
Good friends always speak with love. Her words should heal and guide you, not cut like a knife. Occasional mood swings do happen, but if your best friend has a mean-spirited alter ego that visits frequently, and outstays her welcome, there’s no excuse for that. Expect your love returned, not rejected.
Sure, girlfriends share things, like clothes, jewelry, and advice, but you should draw the line at things like Facebook and email passwords, and other forms of private access — especially if you’re starting to think she’s more interested in your text messages than hers. You should be able to share the thing you’d like to with her, not required to open your whole world. This sort of behavior begs the question, what is she really looking for?
