It’s Time To Checkup On Your Heart! Take Inventory Of Your Choices and Desires For The New Year
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It hasn’t been the easiest year to be a Black woman (whether you were coupled up or single). Thankfully the outside noise does not get the last word on how we feel and live. Honor your truth of what 2017 has been and give yourself a running start to next year. To elevate your life, take inventory of your choices and desires. Take a deep breath, then turn the page.
This feature originally appeared in the Dec 2017/ Jan 2018 Issue of ESSENCE Magazine.  
MY VITALS FOR 2017 My year in three words: 1. ________________________ 2. ________________________ 3. ________________________ My highlights: ________________________ ________________________ My roughest moments: ________________________ ________________________ Three people who made me happy: 1. ________________________ 2. ________________________ 3. ________________________ Three people who drained me: 1. ________________________ 2. ________________________ 3. ________________________ When I felt most special: ________________________ ________________________ When I cried most: ________________________ ________________________ MY ROMANTIC LIFE When I felt sexiest: __________________________ How many dates I went on:______ How often I gave hugs and kisses: __________________________ MY SEX DRIVE How many times I had sex: ________________________ How many times I had an orgasm: ________________________ What and who I added to my sex life: ________________________ ________________________ MY INTEGRITY Three times I felt lied to: 1. ________________________ 2. ________________________ 3. ________________________ Three times I was dishonest: 1. ________________________ 2. ________________________ 3. ________________________ Three times I was really honest: 1. ________________________ 2. ________________________ 3. ________________________ Are your eyes wide yet? We hope so. We cannot address what we won’t assess. Getting the benchmark of your heart helps you clarify where you are and reach your desired destination. Wish you had more kisses and dates (or date nights)? It’s the right time to commit to a new normal next year. MY Rx FOR 2018 Minding our actions helps us monitor our emotions. Get a jump start on the new year with your own personalized prescription. MY BIGGEST DREAM FOR 2018: ____________________________________________________________________________________ MY NEW YEAR’S EVE PLANS: ________________________________ How we start is often how we finish. Develop a strategy for how you’ll kick off the upcoming year and establish a different routine, whether it’s indulging in daily meditation or ten-minute dance breaks. MY 2018 PLANS The relationships I intend to nurture this year: ________________________ ________________________ ________________________ My 2018 bedroom behavior will be: ________________________ ________________________ ________________________ In times of stress, it can be more difficult to take care of ourselves and seek support and opportunities. Master coach and author Sylvia High calls the experiences that feed our spirit our soul’s oxygen. It is important to identify the positive things and adventures that fill you up, such as baths, rom-coms and dance, so that unhealthy choices don’t deplete you. My soul’s oxygen includes: ________________________ ________________________ ________________________ My commitment to myself embodies: ________________________ ________________________ ________________________ So much of our future is based on being clear in the present. After your checkup, give yourself a clean slate to make 2018 your most loving, sexiest and most successful year yet. NOTE: We recommend ripping out this page to check in on your vitals over the course of the next 12 months. And keep your good karma by making a copy and sharing it with your friends. Want a free customized report on what your heart craves for 2018 and how to get it? Head to This feature originally appeared in the Dec 2017/ Jan 2018 Issue of ESSENCE Magazine.