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Home • Love & Sex

What You Said: Would You Pass On A Good Man Over Bad Sex?

We asked you to choose between true love and amazing sex. Read our favorite reader responses.
Would You Choose True Love Over Great Sex?
Sad Man Bad Sex
By Charli Penn · Updated October 28, 2020
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A few weeks back, ESSENCE.COM writer Nathan Hale Williams posed an interesting question in his Girl’s Best Friend column: Would you pass on a good man over bad sex? The piece sparked an immediate debate among readers. We posed the question to you on Facebook and Twitter and your heated responses came rolling in. “Thanks for the reality check,” wrote one reader. “I never thought about it that way,” said another. The issues divided our readers so much that we’ve decided to share the best responses on both sides and let you make the final call. Here’s the best of the advice readers posted and the true stories they shared both for an against the idea. Where do you stand?