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Home • Relationships

11 Avoidable Dating Mistakes Women Make Over and Over Again

These are the most common and avoidable mistakes women make on their quest to find love.
By Charli Penn · Updated October 27, 2020
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Falling In Love Before You Even Like Them

When you want him to the right guy it’s easy to fall in love with him before he’s actually given you a reason to give him your heart. Beware of falling for the idea of him before you really have a chance to get to know him.

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Inviting Him Over Too Soon

Rushing sex is never good, but believe it or not, you can move too fast in other areas too. Your home is your castle and the guy your dating shouldn’t be invited inside until you’ve really gotten to know one another. Bringing him home after date on or two means he knows where you live before you even now whether you want to see him again. Bad idea!

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Physical Intimacy Before Emotional Intimacy

Far too often, both men and women, introduce sex into dating before they’ve had a chance to open up emotionally. Putting the passion before the progress is never a good plan. If he’s worth your time, he’ll understand that waiting on sex will be worth it, and instead he’ll seduce your mind.

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Falling For Someone Else’s Man

The moment you realize the man you’ve been seeing is already seriously involved with another woman (married or dating) is the moment your connection should end. How can you have his heart when it already belongs to someone else? Plus, would you really want it if he was so easily willing to share it?

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Dating While Intoxicated

Sure alcohol infused dates can be fun, but you need to be sober to really test your compatibility and connection. More dinner dates and less bar dates are essential to your true chemistry.

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Paying For Everything

Who could judge a woman willing to foot the bill for a date, or two from time-to-time? She’s independent and she has her own, and should be proud of that. But, covering his way beyond dinner becomes a slippery slope to travel. A man who allows you to continuously cover his way without meeting you halfway or returning the favor isn’t much of a man at all.

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07
Compromising Your Standards

You deserve what you want. Case closed. If the man you’re dating can’t meets your needs, desires or wants, you shouldn’t have to sacrifice them to keep him around.

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Ignoring Major Red Flags

If a person shows you who they are, believe them. It’s great advice that never gets old, promise. Whether he’s a chronic cheater, liar or just kind of a jerk, there’s no reason to ignore the obvious if you want your relationship to succeed.

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Giving Him A Roadmap To Your Heart

Any man can love you perfectly if you give him step-by-step instructions on how to do so. Be careful not reveal too much about your past heartbreaks and desires before he has a chance to show you his true colors. If you tell him how to make you happy, he could just be following your rules and not being true to himself. Think about it.

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Turning a Date Into A Job Interview

Getting to know each other can take time. Don’t expect to learn everything you need and want to know about him on the first, second, or third date. Your questions count, but give the relationship time to grow into them.

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Pushing Marriage

The man who’s meant to be your husband won’t need to catch a hint, he’ll already know what he needs to do, and ask you when the time is right. If you feel like you’re pushing marriage, you’re probably forcing more than just matrimony.

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