You’ve been dating someone and everything is blissful. You get a twinkle in your eye whenever he calls; you get butterflies in your stomach when you’re about to see him again.

Then…boom! Just like that, you’re right in the middle of your first major disagreement and now your stomach is just in knots. What just happened? Is this the end of bliss as you know it, or just your first big bump in the road? How do you recover in a healthy way without ruining the progress you’ve made together?

Guess what? You will recover and this is the natural progression of your new relationship! Here are nine (matchmaker-approved) tools to help you get through it with flying colors.