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11 Instagram Habits That Could Be Turning Him Off

In honor of National Pet Peeve Week, we're rounding up a handly list of the social media habits that may be turning off the man in your life. According to a survey from Match.com everything from posting too many selfies on Instagram to filling your Twitter feed with too much emotional commentary can cause a potential bae to run for the hills instead of cozying up to your love. These are the 11 things you might be doing online right now that turn him off and we bet you didn't even know they were a big deal. 
By Lauren Porter · Updated October 26, 2020
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Just Say No To Selfie Overload

Listen, we get it–there won’t always be great lighting and the perfect angle when you’re snapping a selfie, but posting every single selfie you take (and the outtakes) could do some damage to your image to potential suitors. 46% of men say that while a selfie is always nice to see, too many on your feed could be a bad look.

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The Un-Friend Zone

Forty-nine percent of men are not here for the lady in their life asking them to unfriend an ex.

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03
Feed Addiction Alert

According to Match.com’s annual Singles in America survey, 70% of men are turned off by women who check their phone too often on the first date.

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Airing Your (Emotional) Laundry

Sometimes venting about a bad day on your social timeline is understandable but too much sappiness is never a good idea. Sixty-five percent of men say that really emotional posts are a social media no-no.

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05
Chill Out On the Inspo

Everyone loves a feel-good post or quote, but the survey says that back-to-back inspiring sayings are a turn off to 22% of men. 

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06
Messages To A Minimum

There is a difference between keeping your answers short and sweet versus and giving responses too short to be considered a conversation. Responding with one word answers like “k” or “cool” is a major turn off for 37% of male participants.

Ouch!
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Hold the Hashtags

We all love a good hashtag but 35% of men say #over #Doing #it #is #not #cool. 

 

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08
Spellcheck Please!

If your messages are filled with misspellings, blaming auto correct may not get you off the hook. Thirty six percent of men say that the use of incorrect grammar in text message is a sure way to be left on read. 

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Quiet as a Church Mouse

Survey says, men like it went a woman speaks her mind. Twenty nine percent of those surveyed say withholding participation in a conversation is a major no-no. 

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10
Keep the CAPS

Yes we know using caps helps to exaggerate a point over text message, but sometimes too many phrases in all caps can be a bad thing. Survey says 30% of men say a text sent in all caps should be reconsidered. 

Hmm…

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Whose Baby is This?

Everyone loves a throwback photo, but are you living more in the future than the past? Twenty four percent of men say no to oversharing baby photos.

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