Every day we feature the beloved “Strawberry Letter” franchise that is so popular on “The Steve Harvey Morning Show,” heard nationwide. Send in your letters and Shirley Strawberry will dish out the necessary advice. Today’s topic: Is he over his ex? Good Morning, Morning Crew: I have an issue that I hope you can help me work through. I am in a relationship with a man whom I love dearly and he loves me. He is a widower and between us, we have five children. Our children get along great with each other. We have vacationed together and made a real effort to blend our families. His children like me and are supportive of our relationship, as are my children. We have no secrets and vowed to discuss everything, no matter how uncomfortable. He recently told me he wanted to add his deceased wife’s name to his tattoo and asked me how l felt about it. I explained to him that if he had done it before we became involved then I could have dealt with it without the emotional ties that I now have. But him wanting to add her name now makes me question if he is truly ready to move forward. He says its a form of closure for him. I am not trying to minimize his marriage to his deceased wife or replace her in their children’s lives. However, I do feel that if he were truly ready to commit to our relationship he would not feel the need to add her name to a tattoo.
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