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What You Said: Your Mom's Best Advice About Men

Your Mom's Best Advice About Men
By Essence · Updated October 28, 2020
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Safety First

“No glove, no love.” – Tiffany H.

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Make Sure He’s Focused On You

“My mom always said if a man can’t look you in the eye when you meet him, he’s no good.” – Kristen

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Never Trust A Jerk

“‎If you lay down with DOGS you get up with fleas." – Kentisha

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Love Yourself More

“My mom would say to me, ‘Never love a man more than yourself dear!’” – Suzi

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Hold Him Accountable

“A man that don’t work, don’t eat!” – Nikki

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Don’t Plan to Change Him

“You can’t change a man. Meet a man who is capable to you!” – Tracey

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There Are Plenty of Fish In the Sea

“Men are just like buses. You miss one and the next is on its way!” – Majela

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Watch How He Treats the Women In His Life

“Pay attention to how they treat their mother because that’s how they will treat you!” – Denise

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A Baby Won’t Make Them Stay

“If there is one thing that will run a man off quicker than anything else, it is a baby, so don’t get pregnant thinking that will keep him. If he’s not ready to be a man or father, the baby will add to the stress of responsibility and he will definitely run!” – Maria

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Take Your Time With Love

“My Mom said wait as long as possible before getting married. Travel, live alone and figure out who you are first because when the husband and kids come along your life is not your own anymore!” – Stacy

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Give Him Room to Grow

“Let a man be a man.” – Theresa

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Evaluate His Priorities

“If God and his mother are not a priority, you won’t be either.” – Claudia

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Believe What You See

“When a person shows you their true colors, believe them. And, don’t wait for anything to fall out the sky into your lap. You gotta go out and get it for yourself.” – Krisha

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