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What You Said: Real Talk On Dating Younger Men

We asked you if dating a younger man is a good or bad idea. Read your best advice and cautionary tales.
Have You Ever Dated A Younger Man?
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By Charli Penn and Whitney Gaspard · Updated October 28, 2020
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A few weeks ago an ESSENCE.com reader wrote in to our resident relationship expert Dr. Sherry asking whether or not she could be called a “cougar” because she only attracted younger men. The topic quickly sparked quite the debate among readers. Many women stood up in support of exploring love with men much younger in age, while others warned to steer clear or face trouble ahead. So, we wondered, is dating beneath your age bracket a good or bad idea? We took to Facebook to ask you if you’d ever go there. You kept it real, for sure. Here’s what you had to say.