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Say It With Us: The Single Woman's New Year's Pledge

Follow these dating rules, and we promise you’ll live your best single life in 2016.
By Charli Penn · December 31, 2013October 27, 2020
01
Are You Ready to Take the Pledge?

Ready to live your best single life in 2016? Repeat after us. I will not…

02
I Will Not Apologize for My Success

You’ve worked very hard for all the accomplishments and success in your life and any man worth your time will recognize that it’s something to be proud of, not apologetic for. If he expects you to be less of a woman, he’s obviously less of a man. Red flag alert.

03
I Will Not Respond If He Texts Instead of Calls

Let’s face it, you don’t text the ones you love, you call them. If he can’t take five minutes for you, why even give him five seconds?

04
I Will Not Stop Living My Life

Hiding out in the house on Friday nights — aka date night — is officially out of the question. When your girls call, you will answer and make it a point to go out and enjoy the perks of single life, rather than obsess about the downers.

05
I Will Not Wait for His Phone Call

Maybe he’ll call. Maybe he won’t. It doesn’t matter, because you won’t be obsessively checking your phone to find out. Tuck that iPhone in your bag and get on with your day. He can always leave a message.

06
I Won’t Make Excuses for Him

“He was going to but he…” “He meant well but…” “He said he’ll make it up to me because…” Sound familiar? If you have to start a sentence with any of the aforementioned phrases, you’re in trouble. Ban them from your vocabulary in the New Year.

07
I Will Date With a Purpose

If you’re not interested, don’t waste his time, or yours. It’s as simple as that. No one benefits from going on a date with someone who really has zero interest in getting to know you better. Use the time to do what you really want to do.

08
I Will Believe in Love

If you’re not giving up on your career goals, you shouldn’t pass on your plans for love either. A goal is a goal and just like all the other ones you set, at first you must believe.

09
I Will Recognize a Good Man When I See Him

Did you ever stop to wonder if Mr. Right wasn’t the man standing next to Mr. Right Now the night you approached him at the bar? It’s very possible. This year, be prepared to recognize a good men when you see him.

10
I Will Not Stay In On Holidays Just Because I’m Single

When it comes to your social life, be proactive, not reactive. Whether you’re the first one to RSVP for this year’s Cupid Sucks party, or the one hosting next year’s New Year’s Eve bash, we’re sure there’s lots of options better than “just staying home.”

11
I Won’t Settle for Less Than I Deserve

Start the year with a renewed sense of self worth and appreciation. The ultimate show of confidence is standing by the goals you’ve set and the choices you make. If he doesn’t fit the bill, believe in your decision to seek what’s best for you moving forward.

12
I Will Not Call Any Ex from 2013

You know what they say, it’s always wise to leave the past in the past. Remember, you two called it quits for a reason. You can’t move forward if you’re stuck in reverse.

13
I Will Not Look at Myself As A Third Wheel

Your married friends like to have fun too. Passing on spending time with your close girlfriends just because you don’t share a relationship status with them is just silly. Conventional wisdom says surround yourself with what you want to have in your life — you don’t avoid it.

14
I Will Look Pretty for Me, Not Him

Book a regular mani-pedi or a spa retreat because you want to look and feel your most fabulous. The only person you should aim to impress is yourself.

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