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Modern Day Matchmaker: 13 Proven Places to Meet Men

Wondering where to find a good man these days? Matchmaker Paul Carrick Brunson shares new dating data that may surprise you.
By Paul Carrick Brunson · Updated October 28, 2020
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Where the Men Are

“I don’t want any coaching Paul, just tell me where to find a good man.” Daily, my inbox contains a message with this exact phrase. Since my start as a professional matchmaker and life coach in 2008, there has been no single question more popular over the years. So let’s get to the bottom of it, shall we? When answering any query, I like to look at data because just as Jay-Z famously said “numbers don’t lie.” The most extensive research study I’ve found on this topic was conducted by Oxford University in 2011. The study is titled “A Global Shift in Social Relationships of Networked Individuals.” It includes data analysis on thousands of new couples from 17 countries whom have met offline. So, literally, these thirteen places are where the men are – and some of them are going to surprise you.

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#13 Church

Singles’ ministries may not be happy to hear this news but the church’s role as a matchmaker has shrunk every year for the last 20 years. Only 1.6% of couples met this way.

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#12 Sports Teams

Use sites like Meetup.com to find adult sports leagues in your area! One point six percent of couples studied met this way.

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#11 Hobby and Volunteer Groups

This is one of the top ways to meet new people that I suggest to my clients. A strong 3.8 percent of couples met this way.

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#10 Around the Neighborhood

The block is hot! This truly underscores how proximity is the single biggest indicator of love. Approximately 3.8% of couples met this way.

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#9 Introduced By Family

At one point in history, this was the number one source of meeting a significant other. Believe it or not, 3.8% of couples met this way.

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#8 Large Social Event

If you attend The Superbowl, NBA All-Star weekend or ESSENCE Festival, you’ll see why this is an effective way to meet people. I’m telling you, 4.2% of couples in the study met this way.

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#7 Someone You’ve Known Since Childhood

As long as you’ve done the research and confirmed it’s not your cousin, it’s cool. Approximately 4.6% of couples met this way.

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#6 A Public Space

Yes, it’s true.  There is a chance you can meet the man of your dreams at the gas station because 5.3% of couples have met this way.

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#5 At College

This is where I met my wife. A whopping 7.3% of couples met this way. You probably know many couples who’ve connected in the classroom or on campus.

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#4 At a House Party Or Social Gathering

Given how many people meet at social events is why I created Flow Dating. An outstanding 9.3% of couples met this way.

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#3 Introduced By a Friend

The most powerful thing we can do for our relationships (platonic, business, and romantic) is to increase our social circle. Nearly 15.7% of couples met this way. Start networking!

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#2 At the Bar or Club

Okay, I had to look twice when I read this. Folks are really finding love in the club. Usher would be proud! I know you won’t believe it, but 18.8% of couples met this way. Yes, really!

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#1 On the Job

Coming in at number one is none other than the spot many of us spend more hours at than anywhere else – our place of employment. Chances are, if you’re single, that guy sitting next to you at the weekly meeting is who will be jumping the broom with you. Yes, 20.2% of couples met this way. Maybe you should grab that drink after work after all.

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Talk to Paul

Comments, concerns or questions about my advice? Tell me about it below! Paul Carrick Brunson is a 2013 NAACP Image Award nominee and a 2012 iDate Matchmaker & Relationship Coach Of The Year nominee. His bestselling book It’s Complicated (But It Doesn’t Have to Be) is in stores now. Contact him directly on Facebook or Twitter anytime or visit his website.

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