With the holidays just around the corner, professional matchmakers Tana Gilmore and Kelli Fisher offer eight easy ways to say no to drama and hello to bliss. Here’s how to keep your relationship safe and intact during the busy holiday season.
Between the two of you, you may get invited to at least a dozen parties throughout the holiday season. Choose wisely. The gatherings that have like-minded, relationship-oriented couples will help bring the two of you closer together with positive energy all around you. Some parties spell trouble before you even arrive. Think before you RSVP.
You know that dish you make that has everyone raving and singing your praises in front of your man? It’s time to grab that recipe. We know you can always throw down on mac and cheese, but that is so traditional. Master something different that only you know how to make and that will leave a lasting impression. There’s nothing like your man leaving the party knowing everyone is raving about his woman’s cooking and how much they enjoyed it.
If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, it’s very easy to become comfortable and not feel the need to do anything differently during the holidays. That feeling of stability is great, but it’s important to use this time to refresh your look and remind your man just how much you sparkle. No matter how comfortable he may be, men are visual, and a fresh new color in your hair, a flirty dress or show-stopping heels will reignite his fire for you all over again.
Congrats, things are officially moving to the next level in your relationship if you’re meeting each other’s family for the first time. Remember first impressions are lasting impressions. Why not bring something that shows your warmth and sense of family? Show off your signature personality and your smarts with confidence. Bake a pie or if you’re not a baker, order a statement cake or fun cupcakes that you know taste fabulous. This little touch will be a nice ending to the meal and will leave a lasting memory of how sweet you are with the family.
Let him know “Aunt Elaine is my mom’s sister and she occasionally tells an off-colored joke or Uncle Joe tends to get a little intoxicated.“ If you give him a brief synopsis of who he can expect to meet and what they’re all about, he can start to remember names in advance and appreciate the forewarning as he attempts to connect.
Don’t just up and leave and go run off to visit with old cousins or friends and not include him in the mix. Circle back and continue to check on him while you’re having family time. Throw in a compliment in front of friends and family if you can so he still feels like you’re a team even though you may not always be in the same room together.
As lovers it’s important to pay attention and listen to what makes each other happy. Use this time to listen out for what might be a homerun holiday gift that shows that you care. I will show that you’re listening and behind each other 100-percent.
Emotions can run high during the holidays. It either brings out the very best or the worst in us. Play it cool and maintain an even temperament. Evaluate whether it’s time to scale back the budget or incorporate a family grab bag where everyone picks a name rather than buying gifts for all. Maybe you can attend a play or concert as a group and let those memories spent together be the gift. The season is really about sharing the love.
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