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A Guide to Holiday Party Flirting For Beginners

Tis the season to stop being so shy around your office crush. The holiday season is the perfect time to break out your flirt. ESSENCE Relationships Editor Charreah K. Jackson tells you how.
By Charreah K. Jackson · Updated October 27, 2020
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Go On, Get Your Flirt On!

Tis the season to stop being so shy around your office crush. The holiday season is the perfect time to break out your flirt. ESSENCE Relationships Editor Charreah K. Jackson tells you how.

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Tis The Season For Fun

People are more relaxed and upbeat during the holidays, making it the perfect time to work your magic. Be committed to having a good time, no matter the outcome.

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Wear An Ornament

Whether a bold earring or festive jacket, grab a piece that pops. It’s an easy breadcrumb for compliments and conversation.

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One Up Rudolph

The color red is a holiday staple and screams passion. Add this bold hue to your look with pumps or Ruby Woo.

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Make An Entrance

Before you walk inside, put your phone away, take a deep breath and smile. Your entrance sets the tone for the rest of the night.

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Start At The Bar

Get warmed up talking to strangers while grabbing a cocktail. Smiling and chatting with the bartender also makes you approachable to the rest of the room.

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Talk To Everyone

Ride the wave of good cheer to have conversations with everyone you meet from the women in the bathroom line to the guy at the front door.

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Be Your Own Santa

This holiday you might get to pick out your own gift by making the first move. “What do you want for Christmas?” is the perfect opening line. It’s flirty and will get him to open up.

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Find The Odd Balls

It’s easier to join a group of three or more chatting than a duo. Join the conversation with a smile and fun small talk.

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No, Ho, Ho, Ho

Beware of the married guy who uses the holiday as an excuse to try his luck under the mistletoe. Be firm with a smile when shutting down unwanted attention. You never know who’s watching.

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Sit Smart

If you do decide to take a seat, stay in a high-traffic area and try for a tall seat. Both make it easier for others to see you and say hello.

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