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10 Mistakes Women Make When They Fall In Love Too Fast

When you take things too fast, sometimes love goes off course.
By Charli Penn · Updated October 27, 2020
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Forget How to Be Alone

Once you fall in love, everything that comes after doesn’t have to be a “we” or an “us” affair. Never forget your independence and the role that it plays in your happiness.

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Rush Sex

Your body. Your pace. Love does not require sexual intimacy day one, or two, or three. Rushing into bed because he’s “bae” is a rookie love mistake.

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Try to Do It All Now

You’ve always dreamed of romantic Caribbean getaways, winter ski trips and Saturday-night double dates with other couple friends. That’s just fine as long as you’re not trying do them all back-to-back.

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04
Forget About Your Friends

TLC said it best: “What about your friends?” Of course, your girls will understand if you go dark for a little while when a great new love enters your life. But if you choose to get lost in love and give up on friendships altogether, that’s a decision they won’t be as likely to forgive—or forget.

 

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Compromise When You Don’t Have To

Giving him a pass on things that secretly drive you mad in the name of love is not how you build an unbreakable bond. Your standards matter from the start – a real love won’t ask you to compromise them.

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Plan Out Your Entire Life Together

Daydreaming about your wedding before you celebrate your one-year dating anniversary is rarely a good sign. If you focus on growing your love today, tomorrow will come.

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Go Overboard On Social Media

Be sure he’s ready to be your leading man before you give him a starring role on Instagram. Filling your feed with “ussies” could backfire if you’re rushing a connection that may not be built to last. Once you go public, there’s not turning back.

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08
Put His Dreams Before Your Own

Yes, his hopes and dreams matter, but not more than yours. Remember you have to be happy before you can be one half of a happy couple.

 

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09
Rush The Parental Introductions

Meeting the parents happens organically when you relax and let love takes its course. Rushing quality time with his mom before he’s ready (or she is) can sometimes backfire big time.

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Blow Off All The Other Guys

While we’re not advocating dating multiple guys at the same time, cutting every other man you know, or knew, out of your life too soon may make for many awkward apologies later, especially if they were friends worth having.

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