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Home • Relationships

9 Ways to Be A Better Friend

Could you do better in the friend department? Don't stress. Here's how!
By Essence · Updated October 28, 2020
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Let Them Lean on You

Sometimes the best and only thing you can do to ease someone’s pain is to just let them hold on to you. Being there always makes a difference.

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Get Off Your Butt

It’s Friday night and she wants to go out on the town. Trouble is, you’d rather stick to your usual routine and curl up to a good movie instead. Go! She’ll be so happy to have the company for a change.

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Keep it Real

A real friend won’t fault you for your honesty. If her new hair cut is atrocious, or she’s put on more pounds than she thinks, tell her. (Nicely of course.) A good friend won’t lie to you to keep the peace, they’ll tell you the truth even if it disturbs it.

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Learn to Share

Share what’s going on in your world, don’t keep your drama to yourself. Hiding your feelings and thoughts from a true friend keeps them from getting close to you. It’s not smart not to let anyone in if you want to have a mutually beneficial friendship.

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Lend Her a Hand

Is your girlfriend behind on her weekend errands? Maybe her husband’s sick and she’s got kids and could use a little extra help around the house? Get in there and lend her a hand. She’ll be so appreciative.

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Let Loose

You don’t always need to spend a lot of money to have a really good time together. Host a laid back and low budget evening of fun at your house and watch the good times roll in.

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Make Her Laugh

Everyone needs a good laugh — preferably on a regular basis. If you have a friend who has been down on her luck and feeling out of sorts, it’s your job to get her mind off things — if only for a moment.

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Have Her Back

Nobody likes to get involved in other people’s drama, but there is a thin line here when it’s a close friend who’s having problems. If she needs you try to be there for her as best you can as long as you don’t feel uncomfortable with what she’s asking you to do.

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Let Her Make Mistakes

As tempting as it may be to say “I told you so” every time a friend falls on her face after you warned her of a bump up ahead, you shouldn’t. Show her you can support her when she’s right and when she’s wrong. Judgmental friends are untrue.

9 Ways to Be A Better Friend (Now!)