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Home • Relationships

7 Steps To Finding The Love You Want (Now!)

Tired of dating Mr. Wrong? Follow this path straight to Mr. Right!
By The Matchmaking Duo · Updated October 27, 2020
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Attitude

Do you believe there’s a great man out there for you? Start today with a great attitude, knowing that you are beautiful and worthy to be loved. That light will illuminate from you and others around you will catch on.

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Appearance

Remember you’re on the market 24/7. When you leave the house, walk by a mirror and ask yourself, would he ask me out today?  Add some gloss and some color to your wardrobe.

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Approachability

If you’re in a crowded room or grocery store, take a moment to look around.  Most likely you’ll see plenty of single men around you waiting to say hello.  Allow them to catch your attention by looking up, smiling, and saying a warm “hello.”

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Appeal

Men love sex appeal. We are women so enjoy your femininity. Embrace looking good, smelling good, and being a sexy lady at all times whether you’re in jeans or a fun dress, always feel your best.

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Start The Conversation

Be prepared to have three conversation topics readily available in your mind that you want a man to know about you. You never know when you might meet Mr. Right and at some point he will say, ”So tell me about yourself.”

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Flirt Like You Mean It

When flirting, remember Confidence is Key!  Just go for it so you don’t miss the opportunity.

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Be The Closer

Remember ladies, your goal when flirting with someone is The Close. The flirty conversation is great but don’t lose focus.  Your goal is to exchange contact information so you can continue the conversation in more detail later.

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Meet The Matchmaking Duo

Fisher Gilmore Matchmaking is an exclusive agency of “heart hunters” led by The Matchmaking DUO™ (Kelli Fisher & Tana Gilmore). They provide matchmaking services personally designed to accommodate busy, successful professionals who are seeking long-term love. They pride themselves on giving their clients a lot of what they want, and even more of what they need. For more advice from them visit their site or follow them on Facebook or Twitter.

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