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Home • Relationships

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
By Charli Penn · Updated October 28, 2020
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01
He Calls You the B-Word

They accidentally call you “baby” (not in bed).

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
02
No More Nicknames

Your friends not only know his name, but they ask about him too.

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
03
You Wanna Hang Out (For Real!)

You text him “What R U Doing?” and you actually just mean “What are you doing?”

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
04
You Make it An Early Night

They text you before 8pm.

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
05
You Keep the Party Going

They spend the night, you both sleep in and get brunch the next day.

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
06
They’re Checking On You

They ask how your presentation/test/interview/trial went.

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
07
You Know Their Business

You know anything at all about what happened in their life between hookups.

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
08
More than Texts

They call you. On the phone.

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
09
You’re “Sharing”

You post a link to their Facebook wall.

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
10
He’s Sharing With You

They loaned you a book. (You don’t loan a booty call a book.)

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
11
You’re Not Camera Shy

You allow yourself to be photographed with them.

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
12
You’re Seeing Clearly

The two of you are hanging out. Sober. Not hungover.

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
13
They Want to Have Fun With You

They invite you out to the bar with their friends before they’re ready to leave.

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
14
You’re Getting Personal

They know your middle name.

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
15
You’re Puckering Up

You kiss as a greeting (not just as a pathway to sex or out of obligation in the morning).

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
16
You Know Their History

You’ve, of course, never met their parents… but you do know what they do for a living.

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
17
You’re Skipping the Silly Stuff

They text you “Thinking of you,” and there’s not a dirty picture attached.

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
18
You’re Making Friends with Theirs

You “have a relationship” with their pets(s).

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
19
You’re Not Hiding Anything

They post something to your Facebook wall and you don’t fly into a panic and delete it immediately before anyone sees.

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits
20
You’ve Marked Your Territory

You don’t have a drawer or anything, but you’ve left some article of clothing at their house and you kind of like that it’s there.

20 Signs You're More than Friends with Benefits