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Home • Relationships

16 Make Or Break Situations That Will Test Your Love

These scenarios can put even the strongest relationships to the test. Know how to spot them and how to cope.
By Charli Penn · Updated October 27, 2020
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An Affair

When someone cheats they break the bond of trust they share with the person they love and it can be very tough to rebuild it. When this happens, if you decide (together!) that you want to forgive, heal and move on, the process will be most successful if it begins with therapy.

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A Death In the Family

The sudden death of a close family member can send anyone spiraling into depression. Learn the difference between allowing the one you love to grieve and signs that they need to speak with someone to work through the pain.

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A Job Relocation

A relationship is immediately threatened when one of the people involved suddenly has to relocate out of state for work. It happens, and when it does, the other person can feel forced to choose between the life they had a new life in a new place, or feel forced into a long distance relationship.

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Religious Differences and Starting Families

If two people have different religious beliefs and fail to discuss how they plan to handle any conflicts when it comes to marriage, starting a family, or blending them, it can test their bond. Having these discussions and coming to an agreement as early as possible is the key.

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Nosy In-Laws

When mother and fathers in law are too involved in their child’s marriage it forces the husband and/or wife to feel like they’re taking sides all the time. It’s hard to unite when this is happening. Find your boundaries and don’t let your parents cross them.

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Nosy Family Members

The same applies to family members who are permanently in your business. Keep them out from day one. It’s your relationship and yours only.

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A Family Member Moving In

A family member suddenly living with you and yours can really disturb the peace in your home. Know when they’ll go before either of you commit that they can stay.

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An Unplanned Pregnancy

A pregnancy isn’t always part of the plan and deciding how to handle an unplanned pregnancy can put a strain on a once happy relationship—especially if two people feel differently about how a new baby will effect their dynamic, their lifestyle and beyond.

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Increasing Financial Pressures

Increased financial pressures can cause a crack in a perfectly healthy relationship. Things like a change in salary or a sudden influx of bills can make talking about money tough and affect the way you communicate. When it comes to money, be transparent, work as a team and keep the lines of communication open.

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A Layoff

When one person suddenly loses their job things can go south in their relationship fast. Sometimes depression or financial problems can really change a relationship dynamic. It’s a challenging time when being there for one another matters most. Don’t allow yourselves to become emotionally disconnected.

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Sudden Injury

A sudden injury like a broken bone can leave a person on bedrest for weeks or even months, which can also lead to irritability, depression and a loss of financial income.

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Mismatched Dreams

When two people in love suddenly realize that their dreams aren’t aligned, trouble in paradise often follows. Talk it out and find a way to support each other’s dreams and work toward a future you can see together.

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Moving In Together

If you’re not compatible, sharing the same roof will show it right away. Be sure you have a plan going in to make sure you each make a smooth transition.

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Vacationing Together

The fastest way to test your love is to take an extended vacation together, especially to another country. Its a sneak peek of moving in together that every couple needs.

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A Road Trip

Two people stuck in a car for an extended period of time will test how much you truly enjoy each other’s company.

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An Unwanted Pet

Dogs and cats can be excellent additions to the home when the time is right, but if it’s the wrong fit for one or both of you, those fur friends can cause daily fighting.

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