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15 Single Women Share What's More Important To Them Than Finding Love

We asked single women what they find more rewarding than pursuing love right now, and this is what they had to say.
By Ashley Coleman · Updated October 27, 2020
01
Whitney Hall

I’m more concerned about getting my time management skills in order with the help of my Passion Planner, rather than being asked by a guy do I want to “come through.”

15 Single Women Share What’s More Important To Them Than Finding Love
02
Gabrielle Hickmon

“As a soon to be college graduate, navigating the transition from college to the “real world” and laying a firm foundation for whoever I become and whatever I decide to do in the future is more rewarding than finding love right now. I want to come into a relationship fully myself with a life rich in experiences – now is the time to build that life and nothing is more rewarding than that.”

15 Single Women Share What’s More Important To Them Than Finding Love
03
Jiesha Perkins

“God is using this season to catch up my character with my calling. I appreciate that I have this time to focus on my purpose.”

15 Single Women Share What’s More Important To Them Than Finding Love
04
Debbie-Jean Lamonte

“It’s more rewarding when you’re on the quest of finding yourself and your self-worth. Taking the time be content and in-love with who you are prepares you for, and sometimes helps, with finding the right partner.”

15 Single Women Share What’s More Important To Them Than Finding Love
05
Edith King

“So the most rewarding thing for me would be finding myself; the authentic person within and to be that without any fear of how it affects others. We eventually never get to fully know the authentic us because we’re too stuck being who we think we should be.”

15 Single Women Share What’s More Important To Them Than Finding Love
06
Esperanza Gallon

“There’s no such thing as a boring day in my life. As a counselor I keep busy serving children and families. I help kids and families with big changes they experience and help them overcome family challenges and school struggles. The work is hard, but I stay focused on the assignment God has given me. I’m blessed to be able to impact a family’s future. I’m always on the move so Mr. Right will have to find me in the trenches!” 

15 Single Women Share What’s More Important To Them Than Finding Love
07
Melissa Kimble

“The most rewarding thing for me would be learning how to find love for myself, the life that I’ve been given, and learning to make the most out of every moment. We spend so much time rushing to the next big moment, I want to enjoy focusing on the right now and that means becoming the best, and highest version of myself.”

15 Single Women Share What’s More Important To Them Than Finding Love
08
Jamia Lewis

“More rewarding than finding love right now is getting to know the woman God created me to be. I’ve had the chance to grow closer to Him, heal from the pain of the past and pursue the passions He’s placed in my heart (traveling, speaking, acting, teaching, writing, etc.). I’m writing my first book right now and taking advantage of every opportunity presented to develop my gifts.” 

15 Single Women Share What’s More Important To Them Than Finding Love
09
Kristina Patrice

“I have failed when pursuing love. Now, I am love. I believe we must truly exude what we hope to attract. I’m focused on being the best me, conquering my fears and building my mental stamina. That’s the greatest form of personal pursuit, self-love.”-

15 Single Women Share What’s More Important To Them Than Finding Love
10
LaQuita Barnes

“I’m more concerned about getting my time management skills in order with the help of my Passion Planner, rather than being asked by a guy do I want to ‘come through.'”

15 Single Women Share What’s More Important To Them Than Finding Love
11
ShaGraila Gray

“I want to travel to the ends of the earth, find God and dwell there for a while, know every scar on my body and give them a story. I want love, eventually. So let’s just say I want more than a man can give right now.” 

15 Single Women Share What’s More Important To Them Than Finding Love
12
Nicole Miller

“My focus on becoming mentally, emotionally and spiritually strong is the foundation needed for all of my future relationships. The development process of these areas has taught me that the most rewarding aspect of waiting for love is learning that I already am loved.”

15 Single Women Share What’s More Important To Them Than Finding Love
13
Tarisai Ngangura

“At 22 the last thing on my mind is finding love. I am still trying to find myself and figure out what I want out life. Right now that’s the only equation I’m trying to figure out, and I can’t do that while trying to make room for somebody else. Traveling, Writing and having my own space and freedom are the most rewarding things to me at this moment.”

15 Single Women Share What’s More Important To Them Than Finding Love
14
Mikala Teagle

“Finding and fulfilling my purpose is so much more rewarding than finding love right now. Once I’m living in my purpose, I can be the best version of myself , and that’s what my future soul mate deserves.”

15 Single Women Share What’s More Important To Them Than Finding Love
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Tyece Wilkins

“Building my creative career and watching it blossom is more rewarding right now than finding love. Because in my creative career, I call the shots. I make the decisions. I build the vision and see it through. Something about that fills me in a way that a quest for love does not. And something about that makes me feel more ready, grounded, and sure of the woman I want to be when that life-changing love rolls into my life.” 

15 Single Women Share What’s More Important To Them Than Finding Love
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