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11 Embarrassing Bedroom Moments to Avoid

Sometimes it takes only seconds for things to go from awesome to awkward between the sheets. (We’ve all been there.) What's a girl to do when she's in bed with the man of her dreams and the unexpected happens? Be prepared! Here's how.
By Charli Penn · Updated October 27, 2020
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01
You Say Something You Shouldn’t

To avoid saying something you’ll probably regret, make a conscious effort to relax and clear your mind before it’s time. If you’re thinking about something other than him it will show. Just relax.

11 Embarrassing Bedroom Moments to Avoid
02
A Hair Malfunction

Whether it’s a weave, wig, braids, or a extensions, it could still come undone if you’re not careful. Give him a heads up before you hit the sheets and make it clear that touching your hair is a major no-no.

11 Embarrassing Bedroom Moments to Avoid
03
Falling Asleep

Working a demanding job and trying to juggle having a career and a personal life can sometimes be overwhelming. If you’re honestly too tired to hang, speak up. It’s a lot less of a mood killer.

11 Embarrassing Bedroom Moments to Avoid
04
Aunt Flo Comes to Visit

It’s never fun when Aunt Flo visits, but when she stops by unannounced it can be downright uncomfortable to deal with. Take a breath, reach for the wipes you put in your purse, and take a bathroom break. Remember you’re human and things happen. If he doesn’t understand he’s a jerk — plain and simple.

11 Embarrassing Bedroom Moments to Avoid
05
Unexpected Gas

You can’t always control what slips out (sorry!) but you can watch what you eat before you twist the sheets. Avoid oily, fatty or spicy food for at least six hours before your date. Your stomach will thank you for it.

11 Embarrassing Bedroom Moments to Avoid
06
You Get Overly Emotional

Intimacy is emotional and sometimes our emotions can catch us off guard. He will want to know what’s wrong, but you may not have an answer he’ll like. Don’t feel pressured to continue. It’s okay to excuse yourself and take the time you need to pull it together.

11 Embarrassing Bedroom Moments to Avoid
07
Bad Kissing Breath

Some smells are harder to get rid of than others, so keep that in mind when you’re ordering onions for dinner. A breath mint or gum will help, but it’s no match for garlic.

11 Embarrassing Bedroom Moments to Avoid
08
You Don’t, He Does

If you’re not ready to share a bed with him you should say so. Make it clear where you stand before anyone’s key goes in the door. It’s not a good time to talk about what you do and don’t want when things are already hot and heavy.

11 Embarrassing Bedroom Moments to Avoid
09
You Forgot to Shave

Your hair is perfect, the dress is fierce, but your legs are causing a little “friction”. It’s embarrassing and there’s very little you can do about it when it happens. To avoid it, make a note to shave two days before your big date.

11 Embarrassing Bedroom Moments to Avoid
10
The Body Shaper Is Still On

We all have to suck and tuck a little sometimes to get the look we want from your clothes. But those shapers are work to get in and out of and there’s nothing smooth about them. Visit the bathroom right before you two start undressing and slip it off.

11 Embarrassing Bedroom Moments to Avoid
11
The Phone Rings

Unless it’s an emergency, your phone can wait. The only thing you should focus your eyes on are his rock hard abs. Take all calls and send all texts beforehand and be sure the phone stays off and in your bag — no exceptions.

11 Embarrassing Bedroom Moments to Avoid