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Home • Relationships

10 Things to Turn Him On

Here are ten things that will help your boo to get turned on by you, inside and outside of the bedroom.
10 Things to Turn Him On
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By ESSENCE Staff · Updated January 8, 2024
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Be a Tease

Once you get to know each other’s bodies sex can become routine. Mix it up by slowing everything down. Bring back kissing and touching. You’ll be teasing yourself too but once you get going it will be explosive.

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Give Him Something to Anticipate

Text your man all day telling him what he can expect later. You can also pick a future date and remind him what’s coming. Taunt your lover with a naughty note in his pocket or a detailed voicemail that would make Zane blush.

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03
Don’t Mother Him

Baby, are you going to wear those pants? There is nothing sexy about being your man’s mother. He somehow managed before he met you, right? Give the Mommie Dearest act a rest and your love life will thank you.

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04
Go Sex Toy Shopping Together

This summer I interviewed men about whether they would try sex toys with their women. Most gave a resounding yes! Shop in person or find a woman-friendly site like Babeland. Even if you just pick up flavored lube it will be a fun excursion.

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05
Say His Name, Say His Name

We all love the sound of our own names. Using his name often and lovingly is one of the simplest ways to deepen an intimate connection.

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06
Lights Up

Nothing is sexier than confidence and your man wants to bask in yours. You’ve got good lighting, right? Turn it up and let his tongue be the only airbrushing you’re thinking about.

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07
Think Outside the Box

Your sex life should be more than horizontal and in your bedroom. If there is always something you’ve been telling him no about, consider a yes.

Say you’re out to dinner with a group. When he goes to the restroom excuse yourself too. Pull him into a clean, private bathroom and pucker up.

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Want to talk about it?
Take some time to understand your partner, and make him open up to you. You’ll grow closer and he’ll appreciate it.
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09
Play Word Games
Get creative with eachother! Try to finish eachother’s sentences.
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Have an All About Him Day
Try dedicating your entire day to your partner and discover how much he’ll be turned on by you.
10 Things to Turn Him On
TOPICS:  love & sex