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First Look: "The Going Down Guide"

We take a close look at "The Going Down Guide: Tongue Tips and Oral Sex Techniques for Men and Women"
By · Updated October 29, 2020

“There’s one secret that every true oral connoisseur knows: no matter how skilled you are there’s always more to learn.” – The Going Down Guide: Tongue Tips and Oral Sex Techniques for Men and Women, $18.95 (St. Martin’s Press, 2009)

 

With that said, you can always learn something new when it comes to ‘southern hospitality’ and The Going Down Guide’s creative suggestions will take your sex life to new heights. Here’s a sneak peek of the hot summer read.

 

You’ll get a kick out of quick-witted lists like the 10 “Cunnilingus Commandments” or the “Blow Job Basics,” which will serve as your tour guide on taking your skills to the next level.

 

Whether you’re out of new positions to try or have no clue where to start, The Going Down Guide has illustrations and diagrams to get you and your partner in action. Authors Emily Dubberley and Al Needham cover an array of topics such as “what to do when you don’t like the taste” and what happens if you “start to gag” to ease your hang-ups about doing the deed.  This book is not for the bashful, but if you’re ready to get “down” and dirty, pick up this manual.

 

 

Here are a few pointers you may come across while reading The Going Down Guide (available in stores July 2009):

 

Tips for women:

Talk with your mouth full

It’s good manners to keep on going until the bitter end

 

Tips for men:

Rapid movements of the tongue…can help “wake it up”

The tongue is important, but don’t underestimate what you can do with your lips

 

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