Common on "putting out" on the first night and single moms.
Girlfriends give great relationship advice, but sometimes what you really need is a little insight from men.
Common is always respectful of the ladies, and he’s dated some of Hollywood’s most fierce women, like Serena Williams and Erykah Badu. And, when it comes to relationship-talk, he doesn’t hold back. So we turned to him to help you out. We recently gave you a chance to ask Common your burning dating questions on Facebook and he answered his favorites. Still have questions for the rap star? Not to worry. He’s back with more great answers for two lucky ladies.
JACKEI FOWLER asked: “When do you think that a woman should share with a new love interest that she has a child?”
COMMON: Family should come first and foremost in your life. If you get to the point where you’re calling someone a “love interest,” one would think that the feeling should be somewhat mutual. With that said, I don’t think you get to that point without divulging who you are and what’s important in your life. Whether it’s a male or a female, being a parent should be something that a potential mate or love interest should know very early on during the getting-to-know-each-other stages.
GLORIA JONES asked: “Do you agree with the statement ‘females who put-out on the first date have no self respect’?”
COMMON: The word “woman” is a powerful title to have. It means you have the power to decide whom to which you let inside your Temple. Yes, I use the word Temple because it’s a sacred place. When a woman makes that decision, she must be aware of the potential way she could be viewed by society’s standards. There are plenty of women that don’t have respect for themselves that are virgins. So, whether it’s the first date or the 41st date, in my opinion, a woman should be sure of what’s SHE wants to do and be mentally mature to handle the days after. Ironically enough, I often ask Black women what their favorite movies are. In their responses, they almost always include “Love Jones,” mainly because of characters, poetry and the fairytale ending. What they fail to remember about that movie is that Larenz Tate and Nia Long’s characters had sex on the first date — and it worked out. It worked out because Nia’s character was strong enough to be responsible for her actions and able to deal with the aftermath. To that end, I would hope that both men and women have respect for themselves and each other before they decide to become one.
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