New love is the best kind. When you're all-in on a fresh and fun relationship, it's easy to feel invincible and full of joy. While you're living on cloud nine, it's important to take a moment to reflect on whether you're spending habits are still grounded. Are you sharing the love equally or just paying for his time and affection? These are the red flags to look out for.
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His Uber Ride To Or From Your Place
If he can't afford the transportation, are you sure you want to go on this ride? We're not old fashioned or anything, but finding his own way to you, should be the minimum requirement.
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His Late Bills
Hold up. Wait a minute. This one's a no-brainer. Paying bills is grown folks' responsibility 101. Of course it's tempting to bail a brother out when you love and care for him and he's struggling financially, but before you do, ask yourself one thing: Is this a one-time mistake or a reoccurring problem?
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Go Dutch or go home. That should be the policy for shared dining experiences unless he has already offered to wine and dine you. Picking up the dinner tab is the beginning of a fast fall down a slipper slope for new couples. Think about it!
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Sometimes even the greatest guys carry a heavy load and lots of baggage with them. While it may not be worthy of passing judgment on your part, remember that if his past is interfering with your future together, that's one major red flag. (Especially if it's costing you cash.)
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While those last minute vacation deal emails may tempt your inbox daily, you should think twice before splurging on a getaway for two before you're positive that the love is real at home. Stick to weekend getaways or splitting the bill to protect your bank accounts, heart and peace of mind.
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If he's not anxiously awaiting your next great date, tempting him with an offer to fund the moment it won't make it right. Any man who needs to hear "It's on me" to show up for you, isn't much of a man at all.
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An Expensive Birthday Or Holiday Gift
Save the celebratory splurges for later -- you don't need to make a grand (financial) gesture to show him you're committed to your new love.
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Women often enjoy shopping for their men, it's normal. We get it. But ladies, please be clear on the difference between buying him that slim fit blazer you spotted that he'll love and being the bank for a full-fledged shopping spree.
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