Tameka Foster, who lost her son Kile Glover in 2012, is the epitome of resilience.

The stylist, author, and mother of five stopped by ESSENCE for an exclusive chat about her new book, White Bras & 101 Other Style Faux Pas.

In addition to giving snackable style tips, Tameka’s book is filled with mantras about staying positive. “Trust me, I’ve had enough turmoil,” says the author. “You spend a little time suffering, you deal with the problem, and then you have to always convert back to a positive space. Stay in a beautiful state, and the universe and God [make sure] it’ll all work itself out for you.”

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Foster also gave us more details on her forthcoming animated series in honor of her son, The Odd Life Of Kile Lyles. She says the plot surrounds a typical nuclear Black family and is sprinkled with a bit of sibling rivalry. Kile, the main character, eventually gains superpowers which no one in his family is aware of except his baby sister.

“I think we need Black animation,” Foster says. “Kids need to see themselves in a more positive light and see people they want to emulate. It’s really a good show.”

When asked what advice she’d give to parents who have lost children and see her as the light at the end of the tunnel, Foster responds, “Respect the process.”

She continues: “It’s ok to have time where you mourn, but you have to pick yourself up by your bootstraps and keep going. The key to it is resilience, prayer and focus. Find something positive to focus on. That’s what I’ve done.”

Foster was previously married to singer Usher Raymond from 2007 to 2009. They share two sons: Usher “Cinco” Raymond V, born Nov. 2007 and Naviyd Ely Raymond, born Dec. 2008. Her life post-divorce was chronicled on the VH1 reality show Atlanta Exes. Foster’s high profile relationship with the singer isn’t her only claim to fame. She boasts an impressive list of clientele having dressed Lauryn Hill, Toni Braxton, Ciara, Patti LaBelle, Nas and others.

Foster’s book is available for download here.

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